Congrats on the birth of your baby, as with every mother, what  is paramount to you now is the well being of your child which primarily means what will my baby eat, how often should I feed, is my baby getting enough and so many other things are going through your head, and for you who has chosen to breastfeed I say welcome to the gang.

Having breastfed my babies I can comfortably tell you the in and out of it. I will be sharing with you tip three tips that has made my breastfeeding journey a smooth one.

1. To start breastfeeding you have to have prepared by your breast before your baby was even born, strange? No it’s not, while in the last four weeks of your pregnancy you have to prepare your breast by cleaning and pulling out the nipples with cotton wool dipped in olive oil before every bath. This helps to cleanse your nipples and freeing it from dirt’s that might have clogged it up. Skipping this won’t be nice as you will struggle with having milk come out once your baby arrives.

2. Taking lots of water and fruits, yes I know you hear this all the time but you might not know exactly how this would help you, now am telling you it’s the best foundation for breastfeeding. Drink lots of water and take fruits that are high in water content as breast milk is made up of over 85% water. Another thing you can take once your baby arrives is Pap (made from corn) this helps to produce milk very fast after the baby arrives, it makes it easy for you milk to flow and that way you don’t have to wait for days before you milk comes out.

3. Resting a lot, as much as you want to be up and doing after your baby, not having adequate rest would affect your milk production, being tensed or angry or even unhappy affects milk production, so you have to take out time to rest, it doesn’t mean sleep but just relax your mind and body and you will have ease with milk production.

4) Take breastfeeding supplements, they are not just a hype, it really helps when you take breastfeeding supplements, this helps to balance your hormones during breastfeeding making sure that you are well nourished, as you might not be able to eat all classes of food that you need for your new baby, these supplements also help you be stable, you know those dizziness and tiredness you feel? It will be taken care of once you are on these supplements, we offer times don’t give out body credit or adequate care for all that it goes through, this is one sure way to reward your body and set you on a right path to healing from child birth

These are my top four  points on easing into breastfeeding as a first time mum. Let me know what has worked for you with your babies or if this article was helpful, see you in my next post…..

So it’s Valentine day around the corner, the season of love, oh I remember those days in secondary school, when February 14th was the day to look forward to, all the big girls in school will start to talk about their plans and how much they will enjoy themselves that day, chai, all we could do was wonder when it was going to get to out turn, you know those rubber Rose flowers and tiny teddy bears that come with them, oh we would just be dying to get it as a gift as if those things meant anything, the good old days, now I look back and just laugh like really laugh, anyway back to this time and age, why do men shy away from been romantic on Valentine’s day and cover to up with the same talk of everyday is Valentine day.

As much as we know there isn’t just one day to show love and be loved, we just still want a bit of pampering on that day and not feel left out.

I figured since the atmosphere is filled with love stuff right now, this is the best time to talk about reinventing the intimacy bond in our relationship. The stress of everyday life and kids can take a deep toll on our lives and as such our intimacy, because our bodies go through a lot every day and often times you just want to hit the bed and sleep off, well we can’t always do that, we have to remember that we have ourselves to take care of and the bond in your relationship doesn’t have to suffer.

Now to some tips that would help bring back the fire in the bedroom department.

1) Decide that you both need this, marriage is hard work, and it’s what you put in that you get out, you have to decide and make conscious effort to stick to your decision regardless of the situation. When you have done this, the next step is to find a way to be together alone in a neutral place that inst your house, you will be amazed at how just going out for a few hours together could change your mood and thereby create a new found or remembered bond that you share, don’t get choked up in the house, step out and let some fresh air penetrate your relationship.

2) After you must have gone out and you feel like a new couple again, you need to try something spontaneous, like kissing in public, taking a long walk together, holding hands and just taking about how much you love and cherish each other, and while at it get naughty with your words, now intimacy is not only about the actual sex, it’s the whole package, that feeling of wanting, the butterflies in the belly, the sweet nothings that help build up the excitement for the sex later on. So take advantage of the walk and do something new that you never imagined you come do, remind yourselves of some of the best times you have had together. And work it up from there.

3)Try out a new place to get intimate, spend the day preparing  for it with your words, actions, dressing and body language, let the heat build up so hot and when you are ready, try a new location.

4) Delay sex for a few days, this helps to build up anticipation, you start to long for it more because it’s been a while and when you can’t take it anymore go all out for it like your life depends on it, go into it with the intent to pleasure yourself and your partner with all of you and no reservations.

So guys these are a few ways that you can use to bring the heat back in the bedroom and sustain it, feel free to share with me your tips on spicing it up, and it these tips worked for you, kindly let me know in the comments section. See you in my next post

Congrats on your new baby and of course new life, oh I remember when I first became a mum, girl you couldn’t tell me nothing, i was so ecstatic and filled with so much love that I didn’t know existed, all I could do and think about was my baby and the miracle of child birth. There is no greater blessing than motherhood I must say.

Now that your life has changed and you discover that leaving your baby is much more harder than you thought it was going to be and then you start to notice all the changes that your body has gone through and what it’s going through now for breastfeeding, you begin to wonder if you will ever get your pre baby body back? Well in this day were social media seems to the the norm by which people want to live their lives, you see women post pictures of a snapped back body in two days and you wonder why your body isn’t doing same, well sister, your body is different and our bodies react to pregnancy differently, also you have to realize that social media isn’t real life, there are so many apps that you can use in creating whatever picture you want of yourself.

First of you need to appreciate your body for what it has done and gone through and you need to really enjoy this moment in your life with your baby, cos trust me time flies so fast and they grow so fast too. My body didn’t bounce back in two days or two months, but I took my time to soak into the moment and took little steps that helped me shed the weight in a healthy and happy way.

I will be sharing with you the tips that helped me through, lets be honest no one has the time to go to the gym when you have only just given birth, with all the tiredness, sleepless night, breastfeeding and adjusting that you have to do as a new mum.

Tips to help you shed that weight girl.

1) Discipline- yes you have to be disciplined to do anything right, with all that is going on in your life right now it’s very easy to relax and let go, but you can’t afford that otherwise in a few months you will be getting depressed cos of your looks.

2) Spread your meals into smaller portions, instead of sitting on a large bowl of food three times a day, spread it into six meals a day.

3) Don’t be fooled by the hunger, one of the major causes women add so much weight after child birth is because you allow yourself to believe that because you are breastfeeding you have to eat every time you are hungry or you won’t have enough milk for your baby, i will burst your bubble, it’s not true, your body has been in a production mode for nine months so it’s more than ready to produce milk.

4) Eat your fruits instead of sugary drinks that only compound the problem, whenever that hunger comes after you have eaten, just reach for a fruit it will do you and your baby a lot of good

5) Use a breastfeeding supplement, yes this is so important as it helps to balance your hormones and reduce your chance of feeling weak and dizzy

6) No heavy meals once it’s past 7pm, stick to it no matter how hard it might be, snack on fruits instead, your body will thank you

7) Take a daily walk, choose your preferred time of the day, it could be early in the mornings or cool evenings, just carry your baby and take a long walk, try to make it a part of your lifestyle, while walking make sure you stay hydrated

8) Water is your best friend, drink loads of water, take a glass of warm water with a slice of lemon first thing in the morning.

9)Make sure you are eating balanced diet so that your body doesn’t lack anything during this period, and always try to get some rest whenever you have the chance, a good rest or sleep goes a long way to healing your body

10) Relax, you didn’t gain all the weight in one day so don’t expect to loose it in one day, be very practical with your expectations, and never compare your body to another or to the fake life that is constantly been flaunted on social media, concentrate on enjoying your life found life and giving the best to your child cos in the end that’s all that really matters.

So there you have it guys, let me hear your thoughts, questions and ways you lost your baby weight in the comments section. See you in my next post.