So it’s Valentine day around the corner, the season of love, oh I remember those days in secondary school, when February 14th was the day to look forward to, all the big girls in school will start to talk about their plans and how much they will enjoy themselves that day, chai, all we could do was wonder when it was going to get to out turn, you know those rubber Rose flowers and tiny teddy bears that come with them, oh we would just be dying to get it as a gift as if those things meant anything, the good old days, now I look back and just laugh like really laugh, anyway back to this time and age, why do men shy away from been romantic on Valentine’s day and cover to up with the same talk of everyday is Valentine day.
As much as we know there isn’t just one day to show love and be loved, we just still want a bit of pampering on that day and not feel left out.
I figured since the atmosphere is filled with love stuff right now, this is the best time to talk about reinventing the intimacy bond in our relationship. The stress of everyday life and kids can take a deep toll on our lives and as such our intimacy, because our bodies go through a lot every day and often times you just want to hit the bed and sleep off, well we can’t always do that, we have to remember that we have ourselves to take care of and the bond in your relationship doesn’t have to suffer.
Now to some tips that would help bring back the fire in the bedroom department.
1) Decide that you both need this, marriage is hard work, and it’s what you put in that you get out, you have to decide and make conscious effort to stick to your decision regardless of the situation. When you have done this, the next step is to find a way to be together alone in a neutral place that inst your house, you will be amazed at how just going out for a few hours together could change your mood and thereby create a new found or remembered bond that you share, don’t get choked up in the house, step out and let some fresh air penetrate your relationship.
2) After you must have gone out and you feel like a new couple again, you need to try something spontaneous, like kissing in public, taking a long walk together, holding hands and just taking about how much you love and cherish each other, and while at it get naughty with your words, now intimacy is not only about the actual sex, it’s the whole package, that feeling of wanting, the butterflies in the belly, the sweet nothings that help build up the excitement for the sex later on. So take advantage of the walk and do something new that you never imagined you come do, remind yourselves of some of the best times you have had together. And work it up from there.
3)Try out a new place to get intimate, spend the day preparing for it with your words, actions, dressing and body language, let the heat build up so hot and when you are ready, try a new location.
4) Delay sex for a few days, this helps to build up anticipation, you start to long for it more because it’s been a while and when you can’t take it anymore go all out for it like your life depends on it, go into it with the intent to pleasure yourself and your partner with all of you and no reservations.
So guys these are a few ways that you can use to bring the heat back in the bedroom and sustain it, feel free to share with me your tips on spicing it up, and it these tips worked for you, kindly let me know in the comments section. See you in my next post