Comments on: Why would a man lie to his ex that he’s not married when he is? http://www.everywomansblog.com/why-would-man-lie-to-ex-about-marriage It's all about the woman in you Tue, 27 Jul 2010 15:24:34 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8 hourly 1 By: shari http://www.everywomansblog.com/why-would-man-lie-to-ex-about-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-1067 shari Thu, 01 Jul 2010 23:55:09 +0000 http://www.everywomansblog.com/?p=394#comment-1067 Hi, Don't know if you'll receive this mail but you make a lot of sense. I feel like the "odd man out" in my marriage and feel my husband holds a candle for his ex. Hi,
Don’t know if you’ll receive this mail but you make a lot of sense.

I feel like the “odd man out” in my marriage and feel my husband holds a candle for his ex.

]]> By: Laura1318 http://www.everywomansblog.com/why-would-man-lie-to-ex-about-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-405 Laura1318 Sun, 30 Nov 2008 11:11:40 +0000 http://www.everywomansblog.com/?p=394#comment-405 Hi I am sorry for what you are going through in your marriage. Even if there is no physical cheating, there is still the mental and emotional cheating which could probably lead to the physical . You are being mentally and emotionally abused by his virtual affair. Where will it lead to ? Do you feel that you are being tortured mentally, emotionally and psychologically everyday by his ongoing affairs? It is such an anguish and you should not tolerate it. If you do ,then you should tell him to stop all contacts with the ex. His behavior is unreasonable, unfair and hurting. It is like you stepped on a nail and if you do not pull it out and apply the medicine, your wounds would fester and become gangrene. What if you do the same to him?I do not think he will be able to accept that. The mental and emotional cheating can hurt your self esteem and confidence . If you do not nip the problem in the bud, it will burn like a wild bush fire and you will not be able to do anything to save your marriage. I think you should put your foot down and ask him to stop any communications with his ex. If you cannot do that or he won't then your marriage will be very rocky. Better you know where he stands now vis a vis with you than somewhere further down the road when he leave you for her. I do not think that it is right for him to carry on communicating with his ex. It should only be limited in nature and no such blatant flirtings with each other. They are playing with fire which can get out of control if you do not pour cold water on them. Marriage is about respect and love. If he cannot respect you and do not do as you want , you have become a door mat. You should let him know where are your limits and boundaries and he should respect them. Otherwise, it is better to leave the marriage before he inflicts more mental and emotional abuses . If he loves you , he will listen and stop playing mind games with you and stop communicating with the ex. Do not rationalize his actions. It is wrong to cheat even in the virtual world . No sensible and rational woman would tolerate it. He is having the cake and eating it or enjoying the best of both worlds. As long as you do not take any actions , he will flirt not only with his ex but with any other loose and flirty woman. His thinking is faulty for he does not understand a woman's psychological makeup. You should tell him your feelings and hope that he will understands. Hi

I am sorry for what you are going through in your marriage.
Even if there is no physical cheating, there is still the mental and emotional cheating which could probably lead to the physical .

You are being mentally and emotionally abused by his virtual affair. Where will it lead to ?

Do you feel that you are being tortured mentally, emotionally and psychologically everyday by his ongoing affairs? It is such an anguish and you should not tolerate it.

If you do ,then you should tell him to stop all contacts with the ex. His behavior is unreasonable, unfair and hurting.

It is like you stepped on a nail and if you do not pull it out and apply the medicine, your wounds would fester and become gangrene.

What if you do the same to him?I do not think he will be able to accept that.

The mental and emotional cheating can hurt your self esteem and confidence .

If you do not nip the problem in the bud, it will burn like a wild bush fire and you will not be able to do anything to save your marriage.

I think you should put your foot down and ask him to stop any communications with his ex. If you cannot do that or he won’t then your marriage will be very rocky.

Better you know where he stands now vis a vis with you than somewhere further down the road when he leave you for her.

I do not think that it is right for him to carry on communicating with his ex. It should only be limited in nature and no such blatant flirtings with each other.

They are playing with fire which can get out of control if you do not pour cold water on them.

Marriage is about respect and love. If he cannot respect you and do not do as you want , you have become a door mat.

You should let him know where are your limits and boundaries and he should respect them. Otherwise, it is better to leave the marriage before he inflicts more mental and emotional abuses .

If he loves you , he will listen and stop playing mind games with you and stop communicating with the ex.

Do not rationalize his actions. It is wrong to cheat even in the virtual world . No sensible and rational woman would tolerate it.

He is having the cake and eating it or enjoying the best of both worlds. As long as you do not take any actions , he will flirt not only with his ex but with any other loose and flirty woman.

His thinking is faulty for he does not understand a woman’s psychological makeup. You should tell him your feelings and hope that he will understands.

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