Too high expectations lead to bitter life?
I’ve never really made the connections between having too high expectations in life to lead to someone feeling bitter over his or her life. But lately, I’ve seen quite a bit of evidence of this happening to people who are known to set exceptionally high standards not only for himself or herself, but also for people who come into their lives.
Whilst there is nothing wrong in setting high standards, it sometimes may cause a lot of unhappiness in a person. It’s great to aim high and achieve the best of what you can for yourself, but to expect others to meet your high expectations is where the problem begins.
Imagine that you set certain expectations for family members, friends, colleagues and whoever else who is in your life. What do you think or feel about them if they do not meet your expectations? Disappointment, anger, frustrations. Can you imagine leading a happy life while you feel all these brewing inside you?
Sometimes, many of us don’t even realise that we’ve set too high an expectation on things and people. And we keep wondering why there are so many people in our lives that just simply piss us off. The friend who turned out to be not so great just because she did something against your expectation, the sister who married the guy you don’t like because he doesn’t live up to your expectations and therefore not good enough to be family, the date who didn’t quite pick the right time and restaurant for that first date, the business partner who just can’t agree with you on your way of doing things, I can go on and on but you get the idea, right?
You see, life is not about other people making you happy. You need to be happy and make yourself happy. If you just can’t see the good in others around you, and have a string of complaints against all that you meet, it’s tough to have a happy disposition around you. And since I believe in the law of attraction, I think that if you are not a happy person to begin with, you will often find the not so nice things happening to you. It’s all connected that way and if you wonder why your life is such, begin by looking at yourself. The problem does not always lie in others. It’s usually within us but we don’t realise it or don’t want to admit so.
So don’t let your high expectations run you down and lead to a bitter outlook in life. The world is quite a nice place to live in. And I’d like to end this by borrowing a thought of a friend. He says that generally, people are not bad natured and do not have bad thoughts in their mind consciously. It’s just how we view them and misconstrue what they say or do to be bad.
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November 30th, 2010
Yup when one has too high of expectations your simply setting yourself up for serious disappointments, failure, you will always be disappointed, you will end up beating yourself up, only driving yourself crazy, make yourself go crazy. If you want to constantly be CRUEL to yourself be all means have the “book of requirements/expectations” but just accept that you will never be happy as most of your requirements/expectations will fall through, change or simply wont happen.
Having to high of expectations/requirements is just setting you up for failure. Also having all these “book of requirements/expectations” is not healthy and you will end up making yourself sick. Like this article says “Imagine that you set certain expectations for family members, friends, colleagues and whoever else who is in your life. What do you think or feel about them if they do not meet your expectations?” Your family isn’t going to always change to your expectations and plus do you really want them all to do what you want?
Just like dating and particularly a lot of single women have all these unrealistic expectations/requirements and having all these “requirements/expectations” simply sets you up for instant disappointment/failure because you are expecting all these things and your asking for way way too much. Men then just throw their hands up and say sc*** it, you have too many expectations/requirements why even put any effort if all you are going to do is squash every man because you want the “perfect” which doesn’t exist. Wouldn’t it be a lot easier and you would feel much open and better to not go in with as many expectations and then you’ll open up and will be like awe I like him I hadn’t planned on that blah blah blah plus it puts people at ease without so many expectations.
Yeah everyone obviously should have some kind of expectations but not so much that you constantly come out disappointed, or defeated and squashed every time. Imagine for example NFL Football or NBA that teams expect to win every single game, they expect every player to be 100% healthy, every game, every week, never an injury and the players are going to always play 100%… Completely unrealistic and not humanly possible!!
August 16th, 2011
Yeah everyone obviously should have some kind of expectations but not so much that you constantly come out disappointed,
August 23rd, 2011
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