Whilst it may seem a harsh thing to say, I think Rihanna should be ashamed that she has decided to get back together with Chris Brown. After what he has done to her, beating her up repeated, she still found it in her to forgive his action because she still loves him very much. No doubt this is a case of love being blind, who could blame a girl in love.

But it is definitely not worth to be with a man who claims to love you but then repeatedly beat you up so bad. Will he ever change his ways? I doubt so. If he did feel sorry and remorseful over his bad behaviour in bashing up the woman he loves, there wouldn’t have been a second or third time.

If a woman keeps forgiving the man she deeply loves for beating her up, indirectly she is giving him the message that it is alright to hit her because she loves him and is willing to forgive him. She may even find her own excuse for his behaviour, believing that she did deserve the beating too.

Any woman, for whatever she has done, does not deserve to be beaten up. For that matter, no one deserves to be beaten up for any action. Hitting out at anyone is a crime, don’t you think?

I urge all women to rethink whether it’s worth while to forgive and continue to be with the man who hits her. As much as you love him, you do not deserve to be treated that way by him. Don’t make up excuses for his bad behaviour, he doesn’t deserve it unless he belongs in a mental institution. Think about it, if a man really loves you, he wouldn’t and couldn’t stand to see you get hurt, much less to be the one to inflict the pain on you. How could someone who love you turn violent against you? Think about it.

I previously wrote a post about not putting up with domestic violence. You can read it here.

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Women should never ever be subjected to such violence at home. And if any of us are unfortunate enough to marry someone who abuses us, I pray that we have the strength, courage and support of family and friends to take the high road to protect ourselves and children by standing up against domestic violence. It is not something that should be tolerated no matter how much you love your spouse. A husband who genuinely loves and cares for his wife will never lay hands on her.

There is never a good reason behind his violent behaviour. Do not justify his actions, do not assign blame upon yourself, that you had deserved it for provoking him. Even an occassional slap around is not acceptable behaviour. Don’t even think that a drunken man is excuseable from his actions of laying his hands on his wife. A drunken man is not completely unconscious of his own actions. A man who hits a woman is not a man! In my opinion, such men are better called beasts.

No matter how apologetic a man is of his bad behaviour, no matter what he showers you with after the damage he’s done, never be bought. He will only do it again and again. Don’t listen to his promises of not doing it again, ever. A man who hits is not a man to be trusted.

So ladies, don’t put up with domestic violence. Stand up for yourself and your loved ones because they do no want to see you get hurt either. If you have children, think about what message you are bringing across to them if you allow yourself to be a victim of domestic violence. It is not okay for violence to begin at home. A home should be filled with love and harmony.

For Malaysian women, a place to start getting help other than from your family and friends is the Women’s Aid Organisation.

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