Too high expectations lead to bitter life?

City Girl — Mon, 15 Dec 2008 02:19:08 +0000

I’ve never really made the connections between having too high expectations in life to lead to someone feeling bitter over his or her life. But lately, I’ve seen quite a bit of evidence of this happening to people who are known to set exceptionally high standards not only for himself or herself, but also for people who come into their lives.

Whilst there is nothing wrong in setting high standards, it sometimes may cause a lot of unhappiness in a person. It’s great to aim high and achieve the best of what you can for yourself, but to expect others to meet your high expectations is where the problem begins.

Imagine that you set certain expectations for family members, friends, colleagues and whoever else who is in your life. What do you think or feel about them if they do not meet your expectations? Disappointment, anger, frustrations. Can you imagine leading a happy life while you feel all these brewing inside you?

Sometimes, many of us don’t even realise that we’ve set too high an expectation on things and people. And we keep wondering why there are so many people in our lives that just simply piss us off. The friend who turned out to be not so great just because she did something against your expectation, the sister who married the guy you don’t like because he doesn’t live up to your expectations and therefore not good enough to be family, the date who didn’t quite pick the right time and restaurant for that first date, the business partner who just can’t agree with you on your way of doing things, I can go on and on but you get the idea, right?

You see, life is not about other people making you happy. You need to be happy and make yourself happy. If you just can’t see the good in others around you, and have a string of complaints against all that you meet, it’s tough to have a happy disposition around you. And since I believe in the law of attraction, I think that if you are not a happy person to begin with, you will often find the not so nice things happening to you. It’s all connected that way and if you wonder why your life is such, begin by looking at yourself. The problem does not always lie in others. It’s usually within us but we don’t realise it or don’t want to admit so.

So don’t let your high expectations run you down and lead to a bitter outlook in life. The world is quite a nice place to live in. And I’d like to end this by borrowing a thought of a friend. He says that generally, people are not bad natured and do not have bad thoughts in their mind consciously. It’s just how we view them and misconstrue what they say or do to be bad.

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City Girl — Tue, 18 Nov 2008 05:00:02 +0000

In life, there is just no short cut way of doing things well. Hard work is always needed. If you’re lucky, maybe a stroke of luck may help. In all that you do, never short change yourself by taking the short cut or easy way out to avoid responsibilities. Managing your own responsibilities is part and parcel of life, and they can be your guiding star or lessons in life.

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