Interesting findings on what causes divorces in couples of different races
Posted on June 01st, 2009 in Relationships
I read a recent article that talked about the reasons for divorce amongst couples and found it interesting that couples of different races have different tolerance levels for common reasons causing divorces.
Have a look at the result that was compiled and see if you spot any surprises.
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Indian couples cite in-law inteference as the main reason causing marriage break-ups.
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Infidelity also rank high in Malay and Indian couples as a reason for divorce. It was surprising to read that the Chinese do not find this to be a main reason for divorce! And I’ve always thought otherwise.
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For the Chinese, health and gambling addictions are more prominent reasons for divorces.
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Indians would also take to divorce where there is abuse, but not so much with the Malays and Chinese.
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All three races agree that non-responsibility of a spouse is a cause for divorce.
What do you think of those reasons? You can read the full report of the study here.
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June 20th, 2009
s it just me or does anyone else think the law that eliminates alimony after remarriage are archaic????
Several attorneys have simply said it is “just the way it is”- just like women couldn’t vote and blacks had to have separate bathrooms and sit at the back of the bus, etc, etc
I really didn’t realize that it is still such a male controlled world and I am ashamed of the women who are in positions of power now.
A person can work for a company for 25 years, get paid, get benefits, retire and draw from their company sponsored retirement account for the rest of their lives. They can even get another job, even a higher paying one and still draw from their pension. The first company CANNOT tell them where they can work or stop their payments. YET, a woman can be married for 25 years, bear and raise well adjusted,, successful children, support her husband through a successful career, be a live in nanny, counselor, chauffeur, accountant, office manager, event planner, personal shopper, chef, maid service, laundress, etc, etc All jobs unpaid, no days off and very few perks. In order to do all this for the good of the husband and family, she relinquishes all of the most productive years of earning power and the perks that go along with that (like raises, paid vacations,prestige, etc). Yet, if after the divorce and minimal (usually 1/3 PRETAX of the husband’s income!), if she is lucky enough to find love again and optimistic enough to want to be remarried, she must choose between love and money.
ALIMONY AUTOMATICALLY stops!!!!
Yet, the man can remarry (even to a woman making twice as much as him) and he is not required to automatically increase the alimony to the ex, There is no repercussion for him.
This inequity and clear discrimination is unbelievable in this day and age. Consider the woman who has been physically and/ or emotionally abused for all of those years. What if she has been married for 50 years? The fact that she is strong enough to even consider remarriage should be rewarded, not penalized.
The lawyers will parrot the phrase that alimony is not a reward for service. Well, what ever happened to doing the right thing? Isn’t that what the law should do?
I am not unreasonable- if the marriage was short term, if the woman is young and has realistic earning capacity, even if the future second spouse makes more than the first, there may be some modification to amount/duration of support. But to patently end alimony upon remarriage gives the man continued control over the woman with no reciprocal controls given to the woman. AND, even cohabitation can affect the settlement.
Is this the middle ages? What about the vast majority of women who don’t have prenups(they weren’t heard of when I married- I earned more and had more assets, so I certainly would have gotten one!). I feel like the judge should hand out chastity belts (keys to the husbands, of course) along with the divorce decree!!!
What to do?
How about a grass roots movement (isn’t that how we got the vote). This law is antiquated, arbitrary and diminishes a woman’s contributions, while giving the man total, lifetime control.There have to be some lawyers, woman with money out there,even legislators who feel it is about time this so called law is changed.
August 19th, 2009
Sooo, you get a divorce, you get 50% or more of all the marital assets, and then you also want the man to keep financing your life after you’ve married another man? Alimony exists to allow you to return to school, find employment, do whatever it is you need to do to stand on your own two feet after the marriage has been dissolved..its not compensation for time served. You made a choice to stay home and tend to household duties, his choice was to work for your standard of living, not to mention the household chores and child rearing that men do, despite what popular opinion would have us believe. The way courts treat every man who comes before them in divorce proceedings and the amounts that are being awarded are already ridiculous when you consider that men and women are supposed to have equal rights. Did you know that in many states if a man remarries his new spouses income is taken into account when considering how much child support he is able to pay? Oh they don’t deduct any money from her directly, but consider her contributions to the household as cash that has now been freed up for him and can be used for payments. For a woman? If she remarries her new spouses income is not considered at all since the new spouse is in no way responsible for the child. Look up and see just how many men actually succeed in getting custody of their children after a divorce…I don’t think there are that many irresponsible and abusive fathers in this country do you? Just a few things to think about, consider these and read up on some divorce laws regarding accustomed standards of living before you make up your mind as to which laws need to be changed and how..and what is or isn’t right.